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Post by toomuchchanmin on Oct 18, 2015 13:10:24 GMT
What is being mature? Obviously turning into legal age doesn't nessecary mean that person is going to be mature really. Some might say that being mature is "being able to control and make right decisions for yourself." However some of the most mature people out there might have a problem of controlling what they do such as eating, because we're humans. Humans are irrational. Then can humans ever be mature?
I don't know. What do you think being mature really means?
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Post by erickim on Oct 18, 2015 13:41:42 GMT
My definition of mature is being able to distinguish what is being responsible or not. I didn't say you need to be responsible of what you do because as you said even some mature people have trouble doing the most basic things like making eye-contacts. However, if you are able to distinguish and explain why you are doing things in a such way, then you are mature. Kids are not considered as mature until like 19 or even more because they just do things. If an idea comes up their mind, they start it right away and this can turn out really bad. You are considered mature if you truly know why you are saying or doing stuff. Also to relate this to Korean culture, old people (above 30s and 40s) says you are not mature if you are not....old. If you are not Korean, you will have hard time understanding this. In Korean culture, if you are just one more year older than someone, you need to obey that person. I'm not saying that it is necessary but you will most likely considered as a not polite person. I think the idea of considering someone mature or not just by their ages is really not mature. Koreans need to learn.
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Post by Jonathan on Oct 18, 2015 14:21:03 GMT
Mr. Boeri always told me about the difference of becoming an adult and a child. I think that you are an adult when a person is mature and a child when the person isn't. The only difference between the two is when making choices. We in life will always face times when we have to make choices. Making the correct choice that will benefit you and others will determine your maturity. If you make dumb decisions when you have the chance of making better choices, you aren't mature.
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Post by kevv on Oct 18, 2015 14:56:33 GMT
I agree with Jonathan that the difference between a child and adult is about decision making. Adults make wiser decisions and make the best decision that they can make where children or immature people like our age people tend to make stupid mistakes by choosing the wrong choice. For an example, teenagers might smoke and that comes from poor decision making. So, I think that being mature is that you make the correct decision out of all choices.
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Post by sunnyp on Oct 24, 2015 4:59:05 GMT
I read and watched different stuff on what is being mature, or what it means to be an adult and one said being an adult means being able to blame yourself instead of others. I also heard someone else say being an adult is buying things you don't want to buy. In my personal, inexperienced opinion, I think being an adult is being chill. This can be controversial but I've never seen anyone who's actually chill --not seeming chill-- and is immature at the same time. Im not saying not-chill people aren't mature but I think being chill is definitely one of the characteristics of being mature.
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Post by lucia on Oct 24, 2015 11:23:32 GMT
I think maturity is subjective as people achieve adulthood at different times in their lives and have different sets of values or characteristics that they believe adults possess. For example, some might say patience is an important quality of a true adult and start to feel a little bit like one when they realize they have attained it. And because people have different experiences, some notice the change earlier. In general, I think people become more mature as they get better at dealing with challenges they face everyday and develop a trait, such as patience, that helps them do things better and in a way that benefits them.
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Post by juliaj on Oct 24, 2015 12:25:22 GMT
I agree with you guys! But I think maturity is when you understand yourself and what your limits are. For example, if you accept yourself as being somewhat immature, that could be a type of maturity. I personally believe that age does not have anything to do with maturity. It's really a mind over matter situation.
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Post by andrewcho77 on Oct 24, 2015 13:24:39 GMT
Being mature is to handle the situation alone and being responsible. If you can't make decision by yourself, you are still a kid. Age does not even matter when it comes to maturity. A 7 year old kid maybe more mature than a 35 year old adult. You have to respect other people and don't be mean to others. Like Eric said in Korea, if someone is one year-old older than you they believe that they are above them and think they are mature. However, these people are not mature and still has a child mentality. So I believe being mature is to be polite, understand other people's opinion, respect others, be responsible, and handle decisions by yourself.
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Post by sangjoon on Oct 25, 2015 4:29:49 GMT
I think mature person refers to person who does not really need help of their parent and able to solve challenge problems alone. What I meant is that if you do not need your parents' help, that means that you grow up enough to make decisions alnow and able to contorll you self. And being able to solve challenge problem means that when you have a trouble, you should able to solve that problem or atleast you should try to solve not just giving up like babies.
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Post by Emily on Oct 25, 2015 7:48:14 GMT
I think that being mature means that you are able to make important decisions yourself without relying on others to make those decisions for you. Receiving help from others can be a good thing, but if the person is making your entire life for you, then that means that you will never get a chance to take control of your life and be in charge. Being mature also means that when you are making decisions, you make the right decisions by not doing anything to harm yourself or other people around you in any way.
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Post by graceyichen on Oct 25, 2015 9:42:53 GMT
I don't know what being mature means. I feel like the more we grow, the more we get used to how the system works, the more we grow mature. You guys keep saying that maturity has nothing to do with age, but in my sort of pessimistic opinion, it has a lot to do with age. Because what choice do we have but to be responsible, patient, better at making decisions? What choice do we have but to be mature? No ones going to look after us when we grow up, so we gotta "become mature". I think becoming mature, like sunny said, most of the time makes me think of buying things we don't need to buy, or having to do things we know a younger version of our self would be against because we've gave in, we stopped looking for possibilities. Being mature sounds boring to me. And it makes me sad because it's like, yay we are born into this world but sorry you only have the first twelve years to play, after that you gotta start being mature. I wish I didn't have to grow up.
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Post by mohahaha on Oct 25, 2015 9:44:13 GMT
From my perspective, I'd say it's when you trust yourself to make decisions on your own and you are responsible of the outcome whether it's good or bad. I'd say in life the only person you'd rely on is yourself, not in the sense that you can't trust people, but you'd have to care for yourself and think before you act
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Post by christopher on Oct 25, 2015 11:20:44 GMT
I think being mature is to be thoughtful and be wise in every action that one takes. When you make a decision, that choice is wise and well thought out and you take responsibility for the decision that you make. Also the ability to not to conform with others is part of maturity. Mature people also knows how to respect others and take actions that can benefit everyone. Age does not determine how a person is mature. We can judge maturity by looking at the way a person act and make decisions.
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Post by anniee on Oct 25, 2015 12:41:11 GMT
I consider being mature as being self-sufficient: as according to the dictionary, needing no outside help in satisfying one's basic needs, and being emotionally/intellectually independent. Thus, one should be able to survive on one's own and support oneself. People can be generally mature, but even have some aspects to their character which are immature. Obsessive eaters are being immature by being unable to take care of their body the way it should be maintained. Shopaholics are being immature by being unable to control their expenses and manage their money. This doesn't mean that the person as a whole isn't mature, but that he/she just needs to alter that one part with self-control. We normally uncoolociate age with maturity because experience often allows for people to gain wisdom and insight that younger generations may not yet have, though I know that this may not always be the case.
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Post by susansun18 on Oct 25, 2015 15:41:19 GMT
I don't really know what is being mature because I'm not mature. How can we know the definition of mature even we are not mature ourselves? But in my opinion, mature is having a big mind(?) which thinks for other people first than thinking of my own benefit? knowing how to be nice to other people? Anyways, I think it also depends on how people think differently. Some said being mature is to know how and when to control myself, some said being mature is to make good decisions and some like me said is having a big open mind for other people not only myself. Actually, I think all of these are the factors of being mature and actually I don't think anybody on the planet is fully mature because nobody really have all of the factors. ( I mean it's super hard to)
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